🙂 That would be the small boy. Still slightly whingy, a bit subdued, and they both hit the wall at 4.30 and turned into complete whinge monsters, but overall it’s been a good day.
Someone, when she was here last weekend, did major sorting on what once was a dining room, and liberated a pile of workbooks. Today Big worked through about half of them 🙂 I’ll go up and get them out of the bedroom later and stick the gold stars in, because she asked me to. She did Science, English, Maths, more English, more Maths, read Not So Perfect Ballerina
and I read her the first story from Don’t Bet on the Prince: Contemporary Feminist Fairy Tales in North America and England
, which she didn’t like much (no pictures) and the Cinderella poem, which she thought was funny.
It’s probably overdoing it, reading her feminist fairy tales at the age of 6, but then again, I’ve been reading her non feminist fairy tales for years. I’ve also been reading lots on the guardian over the last day or two about the latest law commission proposals on cohabitation. (ETA – apparently this is a consulation paper rather than proposals – they welcome comments. Not sure when I’m going to find time to read over 300 pages though!) I’m rather confused. The gist of the responses appear to be that it’s irresponsible for a woman not to get married or enter a civil partnership (presumably that being directed at lesbians, as civil partnerships are, to the best of my knowledge, for same sex partnerships). Now, I don’t want to get married. I don’t want to offend any of my married readers, but the tradition just isn’t for me. But I can’t see why the idea of a completely civil legal relationship for couples is a problem. Am I missing something? I haven’t read the full document yet, but rest assured I will. Hey, if the Legislative and Regulatory reform bill gets through, law commission proposals can become law without further debate. But not if they impose a burden, so maybe this one wouldn’t make it 😉
Anyway, back to the children. Small did some threading beads with a scooby, and coloured in a picture of Winnie the Pooh, in yellow, in the lines. That surprised me – previous colourings and drawings have been very much free form, so this seems to have come out of nowhere. And I don’t think it’s school – I’ve seen lots of his work from there, and they are very into letting children work out their own pictures without guidance. They both spent time on the computer and outside, and dressed up for a while. Actually, that caused a bit of a problem. For the first time, Small refused to put on any of the current dressing up clothes, as they are all dresses. “I a boy!” So I had to rustle him up a pirates outfit, using a waistcoat, kitchen roll roll and a newpaper hat. I meant to ask for dressing up clothes for his birthday and forgot, perhaps we’ll spend some more of Grandfathers birthday present on something appropriately boyish 😉
Right, must go and find those books and stick stickers in them. Good night all.
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7 responses to “Very much better, thank you”
I’ve not read the stuff on the neweset legal whatever it is. I do think that being able to square partnerships up is a good idea and that probably married ones could do with some equality squaring too as they seem equally capable of being unfair to men and women, nevermind getting into the complexities of other partnerships.
Now me, i can’t see any particular reason for not getting married, but i think that might be because most of that “marriage is about being carted off by your hair and bound to the wall till you are pregnant” thing makes me roll my eyes. 😆 But that doesn’t mean i think people should have to do it either. I personally preferred the inherent security of mind it gave me over co-habiting, which we did for 3 years, so i have tried both. And then, well, i liked getting married. It was fun 🙂
I’m so shallow 😆
I think I’ve had too many broken nights recently to follow the marriage vs civil legal relationship argument properly and I don’t have the urge to go and read a 300 page report, but how would signing up to a legal relationship (if one were to be put in place) be different than getting married? Leaving the religion side of things out, isn’t marriage about formalising a relationship in law and getting legal standing if you split up or one of you dies? What am I missing?
I’m not sure that you *can* leave the religion side out that easily. Even if it is done in a registry office, I don’t want to be a wife, and I don’t want to have a husband. I don’t object to having a partner.
Probably overly picky, but most changes are made over small picky things I suspect 🙂
Do you get the legal status by default after x time together, or do you have to sign summat? If the latter then why is it any different to a civil wedding? Am I being thick? Glad that it’s not just me that doesn’t get it though!
We got married after 6 years of living together, mainly because I got fed up of having a different name to my children (9mths at the time so maybe I didn’t give it enough of a chance 😉 ). It felt unfinished somehow too until we were married – weird!
Oh and my BIL and his wife prefer to be called partners, even though they are married…
That’s what they are trying to figure out. Like I said, it’s a consultation, although the press has presented it as a charge by the government into private lives. Little different tbh in what is taken for granted in benefits calculations and so on, and I can’t remember anyone in the press going on about that.
I have a different name to my children. Can’t say it bothers me. And I certainly don’t feel unfinished. Harassed, by various family members certainly, as my third sister has now got engaged and has wedding plans 🙁
ah. well even married I kept my surname. SB has no problems with me having a diferent surname, and neither do I.
We had a toally civil wedding in all senses! Held in Jacobean manor house – lovely. To symbolise our commitment. i have no problem with the husband and wife titel – but obviously it doesn’t have huge connotations for me, as Chris and I have been known to call each other the ‘wrong’ title by mistake.
i don’t actually see a civil weeding has anything to do with religion at all – its what you make it, and the meaning you give it.
Jax can you read it and then explain it please?! We aren’t married, firstly DH (force of habit) didn’t want to as he’d just got divorced and now I think well if it took this long for him to change him mind maybe I shouldn’t 😉 although DS2 thinks we should but then he thinks if you love someone you should marry them so in order to kiss we have to be married LOL! I would like legal protection (the only thing I can see worth getting married for) in case of a split but only because of the children IYSWIM. Although time you are together worries me, like someone moves in for a week and expects half the house or sommat!