When I opened the ladder up to our loft bedroom last night, I realised that the cat had once again expressed his displeasure with the move in the standard way, fortunately this time on the spare quilt rather than on the bed 🙁 So this morning we togged him up with a harness and lead and took him out to explore the garden.

It went really well for the first 15 minutes or so, he explored all around the back of two sheds and the garage, the vegetable area and part of the lawn. He was working his way towards the front of the house when a bike went by on the road and he panicked 🙁 Big was holding the lead at the time, and didn’t know to just stop him running so he made it through the trellis and round a post and me, tangling the lead thoroughly before clambering up the post absolutely beside himself, hissing and spitting the lot.

It took Tim and me to untangle him – I got him by the scruff and unpeeled him from the post – quite surprised not to get a face or an armful of claws in the process, but he seemed a lot happier once I was holding him. So then we came back inside, and he hasn’t been anywhere near the door since, obviously deciding that that was a bad idea.

Children have pretty much vegged today, while I’ve started to work in desultory fashion through the list of ppl to notify of our move. Big started thinking of new address letters, and did some more work on her Nature Detectives pack, the leaf ladder this time. We did make it out to pick up registration forms for the doctor (I’m intrigued by the one that says you have to hand it in a week before you register??) and paid another visit to the library as well as picking up some more world book day books, Winnie to the Rescue!/Yuck’s Rotten Joke Ha! Ha! Ha! for Small and Percy Jackson and the Sword of Hades / Groovy Greeks (Horrible Histories) for Big. She fancied the Yuck one actually, but I couldn’t see much point in having two copies in the house, must make sure that Small lets her read it, given that he’s finished it, both bits, already!

Also bought Small a new coat in the local cheap shop as his doesn’t appear to have made the journey, sigh. *Must* remember that telling him to do something like picking up something is insufficient and I need to check he’s actually followed through with whatever the instruction is. The coat’s quite nice though, and sized for age 7 so has plenty of growing room, at £7 not too bad a price to pay I suppose.

And that’s pretty much been the day. Big watched some Victorian Farm while I was making them pasta for tea and filling out doctors’ forms, and now they are in their bedroom. Their behaviour has been less than outstanding today, so I’m quite pleased for it to be bedtime, although I know I’m nowhere near as understanding as I should be given the level of stress I’m feeling. Got as far as trying to ring the local EPAU to self-refer, and got through to a fax machine before the phone died on me. Will try again tomorrow. Am trying to think that utter exhaustion and constant faint nausea are positive symptoms, but do remember that I felt that way with the first miscarriage too, way back whenever it was (need to look it up for the doctor’s form. I try not to remember that sort of thing.)

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9 responses to “Traumatised cat.”

  1. We’ve been watching loads of the Victorian Farm too!
    and exhuastion and nausia usually are pretty positive symptoms…. fingers crossed (((hugs)))

  2. Hope you get the EPAU thing sorted tomorrow morning xx.

  3. Hope the EPAU thing goes OK. Suggestion for Small based on my lot, don’t just say pick it up, you should say “Pick it up and take it with you to the car”. Otherwise (and it is the result of bitter experience) if you say pick it up he can do just that. Pick it up and put it down again. He has done the letter of what you have said because he missed the spirit of it! I no longer say “Sit down”, I have to say “Sit down and stay sitting down until…” *rolls eyes at literal children* !

  4. Jax if the EPAU are not cooperative you can ask if they have a bereavement midwife (would find out either via delivey suite or the supervisor of midwives). My hospital run a clinic where you see the bereavement midwife & consultant every two weeks from 6-7 weeks for a scan/appointment (or as often as you want). It is less traumatic than the EPAU (I hope never to set foot in one again) – means no waiting around either.

  5. EPAU not cooperative in any sense of the word – I need a GP referral and even then they don’t scan before 12 weeks unless there is bleeding/ pain. Marvellous.
    I have another number to ring maternity services, but I think I’m going to have to go and see if I can get an appt to see a doctor as temp resident while they are processing the registration forms and take it from there – why don’t these ppl understand that every appt and every professional you have to see and explain it all to just hurts that little bit more?
    Sobs gently on keyboard.

  6. do any of these people know of your miscarrage history? (sorry, that’s a horrible phrase but I can’t think how else to put it)
    because it makes a difference to your likehood of further miscarrage and it CERTAINLY should make a difference to your treatment. I know you’ve just moved and you are therefore knew to these people, I’m still boggling re their response.
    You best bet is to register with a gp ASAP (or see one as a temp resisdent, as you say, if that gets you in quicker) and stress how distressed etc you are.
    Or possibly fetch up at A&E in a state. It’s really easy to shove someone through for a quick scan.
    xxx

  7. I did briefly go through medical history on the phone, but tbh, the woman on the other end wasn’t interested and wasn’t listening. I find it mindboggling that the level of care is so different in different areas, in Chesterfield and Calderdale I could more or less turn up for a scan from 6 or 7 weeks given my history and they were quite happy to deal with that. Of course, it is possible that I just got the uninterested idiot on the phone (censoring self here!) and that if I tried again I could get further.
    My plan atm is that I’m going to turn up at docs and not leave until I’ve seen someone sympathetic who does something to help – stress levels are mounting steadily and that can’t be good for anything.
    If all else fails, will consider private viability scan, but it didn’t ought to be necessary 🙁

  8. sending more hugs and lots of positive vibes etc. and def make a nuicance of yourself until something gets done!

  9. lets hope it was the idiot saturday girl and that everyone else is likely. It does happen. I have a great GP and all the surgery is fab – except one of the receptionists whom I only ever get onthe other end of the phone in moments of stress!
    My other thought was would a test help in the interim? cheep at asda and maybe that would help you stop tearing your hair out till you get the scan? i remember reading about someone who took one everyday util she could feel the baby kicking to reasure herself she was still pregnant…

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