Mumsnet are running a campaign to improve the standard of miscarriage care in this country. Sounds like a good idea to me – I’ve had three miscarriages and two scares since them, in three different PCT areas, and looking back I’ve blogged various parts of them.
It appears I didn’t think that much of Calderdale’s first line care, even if I did turn out to have excellent obs. Although it did have the advantage that you didn’t have to queue with pregnant women to get your miscarriage scan, as I had to do for the two miscarriages in Chesterfield. And I found a good rant about follow up care, or lack thereof, trigger by my discovery that decluttering is bad for you.
Things I’ve learnt about miscarriage – we all deal with them in different ways. Some ppl (metaphorically) wear flashier ties. Some ppl never mention them. Some ppl never stop mentioning them. I hope I have the balance right for mine and other ppl’s comfort. With regards to care – I’ve been patted on the hand by a lovely nurse asking – is this your first – when she’d been the same nurse who’d comforted me through the first miscarriage 9 months earlier. I know she sees hundreds of ppl and can’t remember one or two, but I only saw one and she’s stuck in my mind for years. Read the notes before you start the platitudes, it’s not difficult. And it makes a difference.
Other things that make a difference – don’t make miscarrying women sit in a waiting room with pregnant women. It’s painful enough as an experience without having what you are losing rubbed in so obviously. It’s all simple stuff really. And yes, I think I might just email my MP…
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