Tim got a letter this morning.
That in itself is not so surprising, but this one was unexpected to say the least. It was from his ex-wife, and said that his daughter would like to see him now, so please would he call. I’ve never met them – they were in brief contact nearly 5 years ago now, but at that point E didn’t want to get to know Tim, and so the contact stopped. I don’t know whether she knows that she has a sister, and I’m certain she doesn’t know she has a brother.
I cried.
Made yet another effort for a better day with Big, and had variable success. She did quite a bit of computer work this morning, and played with duplo as well, and only went up to her room once I think. Then this afternoon we went on our mission of mercy to Sheffield and M’hell (please read Tim’s post below and comment if you’ve anything to suggest!) and she varied from being wonderfully well behaved to leaping around like an idiot. She was about to lose it in Clarks, as there was another pair of children behaving extremely badly, and one of the sales assistants headed it off by producing a magazine for her to read. Lovely lady!
Anyway, she needed new shoes, (a whole size up, thought she’d just done a growth spurt!) but Small didn’t. We also bought a new battery charger and high capacity batteries for the Tens machine, and had tea in the food court before coming home for a late bath and bed.
And now I’ve managed to do a bit more work, but I’m going to clear off soon as Small fed twice last night instead of once, and I’m out on my feet. Supposed to be sports day mark 2 at group tomorrow, but I’m thinking it’s only going to work if we do swimming races…
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6 responses to “A bit of a surprise”
wow to the surprise – I do hope it will be a positive thing all round.
Glad you had sunny weather for Sports. The spots are almost gone so maybe we’ll see you soon? Almost forgot what you look like! ROFL
Wow about the letter. It would be great if the children can build a relationship.
Gosh, the letter thing must be very weird. One step at a time i guess, see what she wants. If it turns out to be one time only, as i suppose it could, it might be a fair bit of trauma for your little two.
Big has always known that she has an older sister and in fact has recently been going through one of her ‘wish I could see her’ spells. I think you are right Merry, but right know I am simply glad to know that she is alive and well. Anything else is a bonus.
Lol… yes, there is me off on one of my child centred thought processes. Very glad for you Tim, of course.
Because Max is a bit older than me and was much older than me in terms of development, i have often had this slight fear of an unknown offspring of his suddenly turning up. He could actually have one of almost adult age now, which isn’t so bad, but i used to have “daymares” of him suddenly being confronted with a ten year old that we had to encompass before we even had our own.
It must be, well, weird, but yes, lovely for you to have some contact. My second cousin who is my dads age has had no contact with his daughter since she was 6, and she is a year older than me, apart from a couple of times that she popped up briefly and then went away again. She was told a lot of lies about him, i believe, and i have always felt really sad that he hasn’t been able to know her, given that staying as a family was not an option for any of them. Whenever we are all together as a family, particularly since i had the girls, i have seen how wistful he is about the big family around my dad and really wished he could have had it himself.