I'm going to need a flashier tie.

Has to be one of the best quotes so far, from a series full of cool quotes.

I’m enjoying it, a lot. Almost makes me wish I wore a tie – I often feel rather drab in my office wear. Perhaps if I put on a rainbow top I’d feel more myself?

Tough times at work. The cavalry, in the form of two new recruits, arrives next week, although I’m aware that it’s going to be hectic for a while longer as they find their feet. At least it feels like there might be an end in sight.

And tonight I drove home in tears. No particular reason, except that I was sad. Some more of those waves, they do creep up on you at the most unlikely times. I dunno, I’m not wearing my heart on my sleeve, I’ve even managed to say the word miscarriage in conversation, and I’ve coped (admirably I feel) with Small telling everyone about his brother Mike who died. (I have no idea whether this is related, or just another of his imaginative interludes – how would I tell?) So why am I so unutterably sad? Why can’t I arrange to go and see my friend and her baby? It isn’t, though you might think so, because I’m jealous of her baby. That would be far too straightforward. It’s because just for a few weeks, I was hopeful of having a baby at a similar time to a friend, at knowing someone through pregnancy, and being able to share tales of broken nights. Instead, she has her baby, and I don’t have a date to look forward to.

Bugger, it hurts.


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13 responses to “I'm going to need a flashier tie.”

  1. It does indeed.

  2. Oh ((((((((Jax)))))))))))

  3. oh jax, lots of hugs from here

  4. Well, shoot. 🙁
    *hugs*

  5. Amelie has a dead sister she has created in her head called Evangeline; marvellous 🙄
    I’m so desperately sorry that you are hurting, i know how much that space hurts me, even without allowing myself the genuine grief you have of having wanted it and planned it and being excited about it.
    It bloody well does hurt, that space, and i just don’t know how you fix it. And if i thought it would help i would say to hold on, because you have the future – and hope – but i know it won’t cure the hurt or plaster over the space. And for all i know, that might not be the way life is going. But my personal experience, for what it is or isn’t worth, is that people do seem to understand how difficult and painful it is to see life going on around you and will not begrudge you the time you need to be ready to face it.
    I’m really, really sorry it is hurting you so badly 🙁 i wouldn’t wish that pain on anyone 🙁

  6. (((Jax)))
    Nothing else to say really is there? It does hurt like crazy and that’s all there is to it.

  7. Thinking of you xxx

  8. The should-have-beens are awful.
    It’s amazing how brave these things can make you but the ever present undercurrent of sadness is so draining.
    I feel so much for you all.

  9. Ow. Sorry you’re going through a hard time.

  10. ((((Jax))))
    Charlie named the baby I lost last year and talks about her a lot and it is hard and it hurts. The only way I can even get through those waves of sadness that creep up on you from nowhere is to just let them happen iykwim?
    Thinking of you.

  11. So sorry to hear you’re sad (and how could you not be). Thinking of you.

  12. ((((Jax))))
    Thinking of you.

  13. On the day you wrote this post I was saying goodbye to our 3-month old pregnancy. It’s a strange old business. Some days you think ‘Ah well Mother Nature knows best & far worse things can happen to people’ and other days it is like wading through treacle trying to get on with so much sadness.

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