I’m getting a bit tired of posting about what a horrid time I’m having with dd, which is why you didn’t really get a post from me last night. It’s nothing desperately unusual, just screaming, stamping, shouting, throwing toys and basically doing just about anything she can to wind me up. She’s really good at it. 🙁
And then we’ll do something like this afternoon when I took her for a haircut, and she was an absolute dream, waited patiently for 20 minutes in the queue, sat and did everything the hairdresser asked her to, was an angel. Moments later out of the shop, and I’m dragging her along by the wrist dying of embarassment with her screaming and hitting me, but hey, at least I know that she can behave when she feels it’s in her interests.
So to recap on what we’ve been up to:
I’m trying again to not do much on the computer during the days which is difficult as I’m desperate to get some paperwork done before our hols, and I’ve two or three sites to finish as well. I’ve tried to organise activities and do things with dd – we made presents for Barbara‘s new baby and Beth, and she made herself a bracelet, we’ve done hama (another flag and another flower), we’ve read together (which is a biggie – I am so wrong parent when it comes to reading!) and I’ve tried to be available for her. But it doesn’t work terribly well – although I am not trying anything that is too difficult for her, she tries to give up instantly she finds anything the slightest bit complicated – so it took 40 minutes to do a 9 by 6 two colour hama flag. As for the present for Barbara’s baby, well! Blood, sweat and tears, as I told Barbara (though I do wish I’d taken a photo before we gave it away).
Today we went out shopping for more camping stuff and met up with Kirsty and then went on to a softplay area, and she managed to play with M for quite some time without any major fallouts (although she tells me that she didn’t actually play *with* him. Sigh).
And now she’s out of the bath and into the bedtime routine, so I need to go clean Small. His newsflash – he managed two steps unsupported last night – from my knees to my hands 😉 And he is showing an interest in drawing – finds himself crayons and paper and he’s away. And he’s still cute.
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6 responses to “Difficult days”
Jax, all I can say with regard to dd is BTDT. I thought toddlerhood was a breeze, but between the ages of 3-6, I felt very often that the house wasn’t big enough for both of us. It was a pretty awful, a lot of the time. But it got better. Much better 🙂 And well done that boy.. How cute will that be. DD says “would A like to paint stones with her, and can she cuddle S?” LOL
(((Jax))) well I think they did fantastic today even if A is denying all knowledge of playing with Marcus!! I think they def did interact at some point in the supermarket!
I really enjoyed seeing you all today especially because of how well they got on. I think Marcus decided A was o.k. today too even though she’s a girl!
Well done to Small for the steps and well done to A for the making of stuff and hama flags 🙂
I’ll join you on being ‘wrong parent’ wrt reading, it’s always bloggable when we do it here too. And can identify with the behaviour stuff too, believe me, my lot know full well which buttons to push and when to turn on and off certain behaviour patterns. So you’re not alone! It does get better – although I’m still not entirely sure how much, Joyce is a year ahead of me!
Still. Very much looking forward to seeing Small again, I expect he will have perfected walking by the time we see you at camp!
Sigh…. i well remember this feeling and although i know that it has worked out okay i can’t exactly say how or why.
I think i know you well enough to say that i do think you have a reasonably high maintenence daughter, and i mean that in terms of having had a daughter who was much the same at that age – and i also think you do a good job with her. I’ve spent a couple of weeks solidly with you and i’ve only ever seen you deal with her in a way i would be proud too (and i confess that frankly when Fran behaved in a seriously stroppy manner she just got a smack, which i am not really proud of at all).
It will improve – she’s bright, smart, manipulative as every 4 year old is, beautiful and she only really has you to practise all those life skills on! lol!
Thank you all for your kind comments – I think that if I’m honest, dd isn’t the only high maintenance person in this relationship, and that is probably a large part of the problem!
Joyce, it’s very heartening to hear you’ve been through this, as Hannah is such a lovely girl now! And yes, dd would like to paint stones with her again (I’d better pack some paint!) and I’m sure Small would love a cuddle.
Kirsty, I do think it went well today – we’ll get there.
Sarah – wouldn’t bet on the walking, he’s lazy! 😉
Merry – thank you. And I did once this week lose control and smack her – was overwhelmed with guilt afterwards!
Ah well… if its the worst that ever happens you will have got through reasonably lightly! :))