We started the day with an exercise from the Mona Brookes book – which reminds me, I must read more of it while Big is in bed, as she caught me on the hop this morning and I found myself desperately reading through trying to work out what she could do! She finally deciphered another of her word leaves as well, so got to stick that on the tree – we’re at 5 words now, so it isn’t going terribly fast, but at least she is sticking to it (if you’ll pardon the pun).
As I’ve commented elsewhere, I made a gargantuan effort and managed to only shout once in the entire day, and that was at a moment when a poster fell down on my head while I was desperately trying to find something that I needed to post (well, needed to post a couple of days ago actually) and then Small tried to leg it with the poster. So it was him I yelled at rather than Big, and he was so shocked by the experience that he burst into tears, which made me feel so much better (Ok, I ‘fess all, I went and hid in the downstairs bathroom and cried as well 🙁 )
So I should be feeling better because I didn’t shout? Well, maybe it’ll grow on me. I’m hoping it’s going to improve my relationship with Big anyway, which would definitely make me feel better. I’ve also forced myself to eat better today, and to drink more water, so I can technically feel good about that, *and* I managed to get four things done of my list of things to do from two days ago.
And I’m not going to blog the downside, this is a positive post. See, I can do them too.
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8 responses to “Blogging the positive”
I am fed up of shouting. I cried today because I am so fed up of it. I begged my girls to please be nice to each other and stop the bickering…only got so far. I am finding myself having to force nice times so that I don’t feel the entire day has been s***. Hoping things will ease of as they get used to the activities of the week again- I am sure this has a great deal to do with it.
the only thing that reassures me on this is that every other mother I know seems to do it, partially I think because we don’t smack, or if we do it is a *big* thing as opposed to casual random wallops, which was the way to discipline kids a few years ago. But the main thing is that whether children go to school or not they all seem to get shouted at equally – and I would rather my children had the *nice* times at home doing stuff happily with me instead of getting them at school with a teacher and me only having the crap end of the day with them.
I do hope it wasn’t that piece of fleece you were looking for when the poster fell on your head?!! Thank you, it arrived this morning and will duly be woven in at some point!
Personally, I find a good shout now and again clears the air, and helps express depths of emotion [grin] that the children need to know I have … and, of course, it gets their attention! This applies to my communication with Steve too … ! Oh dear, that sounds terrible, doesn’t it?!
Spare the rod, spoil the husband? 🙂
Very shouty here at the moment – not helped that Dino’s behaviour over the past few days seems to have been a precursor to his potting spots this morning – Chicken pox. So we’re stuck at home in the rain trying to be interested in doing stuff but feeling tired and grumpy.
Jax – I think you are doing SO well. You have so much going on in your life yet you find the time and head space to analyse your relationship with Big, blog it and try to change it. You then find time to fix other peoples website problems or talk them (me!) through how to fix them. I like, respect and admire you. I really don’t know how you do it. I’ll go and hide in a corner now before you hit me or something! I would normally say see you soon but think it’s unlikely with Pox.
Ah yes – pox made hideous pre-spot behaviour here too!!!
I like the mona Brookes book but its a bit wordy, so next week i am gonig to break it down into a crib sheet for myself – i’ll swap you it as part payment for the shopping cart! (ROFL!)
Well congratulations Jax on only shouting once and double congratulations that it wasn’t at Big! Gold Star Mom.
Nope, Sarah, was something else entirely – a tape that I’d sold to someone via ukp, then didn’t get her payment for ages, then when I did couldn’t find the tape case….only the tape. just posted the tape in a different case in the end.