I’ve felt over the last couple of days like I’m struggling a little. It’s only to be expected, I know, what with my body adjusting to pregnancy being over and having to deal with even less sleep than I was getting due to the binge feeding during the night. But I tweeted something along those lines and got the best answer ever from my friend Deb:
Stop comparing your inside to everyone else’s outside. No good can come of it.
Most excellent advice. If I cross stitched I might make a sampler of it and pop it on the wall 😉
It’s true. We forget that what we see on blogs, twitter, even often in real life is ppl’s outsides. It’s rare that we get let in to the what is really going on behind the smiles, and easy to forget that ppl might be struggling just as much or more than we are, they just are a little better at that point in time at putting a mask on.
I’m not desperately good, I think, at mask wearing. I can omit things, particularly where they concern other ppl’s privacy, but what I do say is pretty much what is going on. Maybe that is what ppl mean when they talk about this blog being authentic? And right at the moment, what is going on is a process of adjustment.
There are six of us here in this family now. An extra person, which adds an extra dimension to every relationship in the family as well as adding a whole new batch of relationships. There’s bound to be some upheaval as we all work out which way is up, and some days are going to run smoother than others. So when it seems to you that I’m sailing on through, rest secure in the knowledge that external serenity is only ever portrayed at the cost of much internal paddling. And I’m always rather more like the ugly duckling than the elegant swan.