how social social media really is.
Is having twitter always at my side something I’m using as an excuse to avoid trying to make other friends?
I’m really bad at real life friendships. I don’t know what to say, when to say it or how. I’m beginning to recognise that I’m not actually that much better at online friendships. I follow up twitter friends if I don’t see them for a while, but it’s never occurred to me to get phone numbers and text, or drop people an email, or message them through facebook. It’s not that I don’t care – I care deeply, but I’ve never wanted to intrude. I guess I can’t tell the difference between intruding and conversing.
So, if I didn’t have twitter in my phone wherever I go, would I have made friends I could have coffee with?
I don’t know how you do that. My biggest group of friends are the home educators I met 10 years ago. They’ve been added to over the years as new home educators have joined us. But I’ve not made any more connections even via home ed groups since then – not helped by the fact that my children don’t really like groups, so we don’t get to go very often.
I don’t know how you do this stuff. And I’m lonely. I go days without speaking out loud to anyone outside the family, excepting cashiers in shops. That’s regular, not occasionally. There are a few parents I bump into here and there, but no one I can just call up or drop in on, and spend time with.
How do you do that?
How do you make friends?
If I can’t work that out for myself, how do I expect to help my kids do it?
Perhaps I should come off social media and make myself work it out.