If a child lives with criticism, they learn to condemn…
I’ve been listening to myself and my children. And I think I’ve been doing far too much condemning 🙁 the older children are far too quick with a sharp word or snide comment, often much worse than I would say, but I think that they are enlarging mirrors aren’t they?
And smallest is an echo. So I know when they’ve been calling each other unpleasant names, as she innocently and piercingly repeats them. She also us mainly talking in questions “what did I say?” Being a favourite, and it has been suggested that perhaps I say that too much.
In my defense, I use it to check that everything I’ve said has been taken on board, but I need to find a different way to do that.
So how long will it take me to change my habits and in doing so, change theirs?