Like walking talking mirrors

If a child lives with criticism, they learn to condemn…

I’ve been listening to myself and my children. And I think I’ve been doing far too much condemning :( the older children are far too quick with a sharp word or snide comment, often much worse than I would say, but I think that they are enlarging mirrors aren’t they?

And smallest is an echo. So I know when they’ve been calling each other unpleasant names, as she innocently and piercingly repeats them. She also us mainly talking in questions “what did I say?” Being a favourite, and it has been suggested that perhaps I say that too much.

In my defense, I use it to check that everything I’ve said has been taken on board, but I need to find a different way to do that.

So how long will it take me to change my habits and in doing so, change theirs?

About Jax Blunt

I'm the original user, Jax Blunt I've been blogging for ten years, give or take, and if you want to know me, read me :)

Comments

  1. “Today is a DAMMIT day.”

    “Oma gaud!”

    “We can order it on the internet.”

  2. lol@ordering on the internet!

    I am all too aware of this because as we are only a household of 2, particularly when we were home educating, anything unpleasant coming out of C’s mouth was a direct relection of language I was using.
    You can change patterns by changing your own language though and in less time than you might think. Often I have introduced a more comical word to replace a less desirable one so that he still has the outlet but in a less threatening or nasty way and we can have a giggle about it.
    Hannah recently posted…Circle TimeMy Profile

  3. DD’s favourite saying is: Ne’er mind, we’ll put it in the wash. I wonder where she got that from.

    On a more serious note. I believe that if my brother had been born 30 years later he would have been diagnosed with some sort of learnong difficulty. As it was, in the 1960s, my mother thought the way to make him change his babyish behaviour was to ridicule him out of it. Obviously his two bright sisters followed her lead and, as it was probably nothing he could control, he spent his whole childhood getting little respect. It has affected his whole life, he has low self esteem and very little relationship with us, his sisters. After that experience, my sister has made it an absolute rule in her house that no one laughs at (in a nasty or teasing way) anyone else and that they all support each other’s endeavours. As a result her boys have a very good relationship with each other. And my mother is still completely oblivious about what she did.

  4. If the psychologists are right it should take about three weeks :-) Let us know how you get on!
    Debbie recently posted…Mars Rover and ice creamMy Profile

Speak Your Mind

*

CommentLuv badge
24 queries in 0.485 seconds.