Comments on: Size, fashion and discrimination.

By: heather

heather — Mon, 11 Sep 2006 12:59:51 +0000

I remember having to buy the “Pretty Plus” sizes of pants when I was a kid. There were sizes that came in three options - slim, regular, and pretty plus. They might as well have put a neon label on them that said FAT KID. I still think that part of my body issues came from making out Christams lists at my grandmother’s and having to write down pretty plus while my cousin wrote down slim.

By: Lynet

Lynet — Mon, 11 Sep 2006 00:31:37 +0000

“…it would appear we expect all six year olds to be the same size. So we are already telling many of our children that they are too big, or too small, too thin or too tall.”

I hear you - but would just like to say that, growing up (I was born in 1985 if you want an idea of when that was), I never felt too tall or too big just because my size was always a couple of years bigger than my age. I used to feel proud of being tall, to be honest. I suspect it would be harder to be a child who was always smaller than the norm (I remember a friend who used to hate being short - she performed an absolutely hilarious speech on the subject for the school speech competition…).

I do find it peculiar the way, for example, girls’ T-shirts tend to be tighter than boys’ T-shirts - is this to show off the shape they don’t have? Childrens’ clothing is often too old for them, I agree.

By: Jax

Jax — Sat, 26 Aug 2006 13:06:38 +0000

This was a Sainsbury’s skirt - and the age 8 one looks lovely on her. It’s not that often I buy new clothes either, was splashing out in the sale. mother quite often buys bits, and quite often has to take them back!

By: Alison

Alison — Sat, 26 Aug 2006 13:04:04 +0000

Blimey, there’s hardly anything of Big, is there? I’d definitely put her on the thinner side. Violet and Gwenny are both in 10-12 stuff - Violet’s not that tall for her age (rising-10 but 11 year old height), but has a “figure”. I don’t buy new clothes for them very often, but they do get them bought for them, and they vary so much from shop to shop. Where was this skirt?

By: Caroline

Caroline — Wed, 23 Aug 2006 20:56:54 +0000

Clothes can be an issue here too, but with regard to the waist - I always try to get adjustable waist things now as Boo is skinny, but Phoeb’s is rounder and Els is solid -and as the clothes have to hand down they have to fit all shapes! Abbie has had a waist & hips since the day she was born. P is more ’straight’ and likes to wear clothes under her belly (like a boy). They are very different. If I can’t get an adjustable waist I have an elasticated snake belt to hand My biggest trouble is not so much the fit as the style. I have a 5yo in age 7-8 clothes. When you shop in a store the styles are often separated into 2-6 & 7-13. Well that puts A in the clothes made for rising teens - but she is 5! The styles are often just not suitable. Even the hand me downs from friends are too grown up for her I think. But she is a style-queen and looks gorgeous in the clothes (especially with her wiggly hips already), but she just doesn’t look 5. I make sure what she wears is not indecent or inappropriate, but it’s often too grown up and I can’t seem to get around that one very easily - sadly!:-(

By: Roslyn

Roslyn — Wed, 23 Aug 2006 15:47:08 +0000

I so know what you are saying.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Wed, 23 Aug 2006 09:04:00 +0000

I struggle with kids clothes, my lot are tall and thin, I tend to get trousers with adjustable waists for the boys, for Z (9) its a problem though, if i get clothes that fit her waist they are then too short, if they are long enough they are then too big on the waist. The clothes are too old for her too, she thinks that too, she does’nt like the pink/girly stuff, she recently chose a few s-shirts/ rugby tops from the boys range, but we are finding jeans a problem so I’m finding it very hard with her atm. As for mums, I think that as long as you feel happy/healthy it does’nt matter. I am now a 10-12, I’m fine with that, I think people should be a bit nicer to each other though, Before children I was a size 8, before baby #4 I was a 10, ‘friends’ have commented that I’m not as thin as I was, but I feel better about myself now then as a size 8. Good post btw :0)

By: Barbara

Barbara — Wed, 23 Aug 2006 08:57:21 +0000

You’re absolutely right, Merry, and I’m not sure that Jax meant that she would actually take offence at being told she looked fine (which she does, 10 times over). I think it’s more that it doesn’t then feel socially acceptable, polite or PC to admit to wanting to look/feel different or consciously doing anything about it (especially if you’re not that overweight), and even less to share that success with friends. Like the intelligent child a school….. why does she bother to study hard when she’s going to pass anyway. Then when she gets her string of ‘A’’s she’s not able to share her successes in the same way as her friends. She was clever anyway. Big deal. And that one ‘B’. What right does she have to be upset about that?

By: Merry

Merry — Tue, 22 Aug 2006 23:27:16 +0000

You know, when people say “but you are fine” it might just be that they want to say something nice and bolstering to you… i mean, if i say to someone who is 20 stone that i feel fat, i’d expect them to say “but you are okay” to me - and it wouldn’t mean that they thought i was twiggy and shouldn’t be bothering, just perhaps that they wanted me to feel good and that yes, perhaps they’d trade places with all 12 stone 10 of me.

Not everything is a direct assault on how you are allowed to feel about yourself you know, most of it is just people trying to be friendly I can’t say i felt great the time someone said to me “you are okay apart from having a really fat tummy” - i think i’d rather they’d said “but you’re fine!”

And no, this isn’t a criticism either, before you get all cross with me, just a spirited remark

As for clothes… nope, make them thinner please… so i spend less time safety pinning my children into things

By: rosie

rosie — Tue, 22 Aug 2006 23:00:18 +0000

I do know what you mean about children’s clothes sizes- Joy (8) has to wear 11-12 in fashion-led store clothes, eg New look, and 9-10 in Boden, m&s, etc. She just hasnt got that teenager shape yet, and hence no waist. It does bother her. It bothers me that it bothers her. She thinks she’s fat. she thinks she’s too fat to do ballet, which she loves. Her cousin, who is now a slim teenager, has borderline anorexia, which bothers me a lot. We don’t go out and buy new clothes often. I recently made her some dresses, which avoid the size/ waist issue. I cut off the legs of some of her sister’s jeans- I should have cut out the size tag, too. I once complained at M&S as they had nothing that would fit her- all skinny-fit jeans- they should know better- it’s too late when you’re grown up with a hang up about your size- the damage is done- by them.
fergus is a different shape- I have to buy the next age up for the length and get something with elastic that can be pulled tighter.
I don’t know what the solution is, but not making mini teenage clothes for little girls might be a start. My mum blames it on Kids TV presenters! And Vertbaudet sizes are tiny!
And, also, what about not making teenage clothes for grown-ups- o, but I can’t afford grown-up shops.
I, too have managed to get down to a size 12 hipster (which makes my bum look smaller!). But I still have to wear a long t-shirt to cover my muffin top overhang! I don’t think its anti-feminist to want to look nice and feel good about the way you look. Well done, and well said.