Comments on: Blog or washing/ washing up? http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup/2005/01/31/blog-or-washing-washing-up/ coming home again Wed, 07 Jan 2009 03:55:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: karen b http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup/2005/01/31/blog-or-washing-washing-up/comment-page-1/#comment-3439 karen b Tue, 01 Feb 2005 14:26:24 +0000 /?p=635#comment-3439 I was exactly like Joyce has put above - before I had Little chick - I am a little like it with money now but not so much that I can't enjoy life with LC and Steve. Since having her my life has changed so much that I am probably unrecognisable to anyone who knew me before. I think being an older parent too I think stuff everything except my immediate family. LC is never off my lap she gets cuddles just looking at her. Yet she is not very cuddly with anyone else - even Steve has to 'earn' his cuddles!! I don't know if other people would think I am over the top in this but I don't do it at inappropriate times eg when she is busy doing something or every five seconds etc but when we have the moment or opportunity to tell her I love her or cuddle her I do because this was totally lacking in my childhood. When I first had LC it's a wonder her skin didn't come off with all the kisses she got as I couldn't really cuddle her that much for the first two weeks as she had to be in a double light incubator - I'm sure she was in there longer because when it was feeding or changing nappy time I used to keep her out for as long as possible cuddling her LOL I was exactly like Joyce has put above - before I had Little chick - I am a little like it with money now but not so much that I can’t enjoy life with LC and Steve. Since having her my life has changed so much that I am probably unrecognisable to anyone who knew me before. I think being an older parent too I think stuff everything except my immediate family. LC is never off my lap she gets cuddles just looking at her. Yet she is not very cuddly with anyone else - even Steve has to ‘earn’ his cuddles!! I don’t know if other people would think I am over the top in this but I don’t do it at inappropriate times eg when she is busy doing something or every five seconds etc but when we have the moment or opportunity to tell her I love her or cuddle her I do because this was totally lacking in my childhood. When I first had LC it’s a wonder her skin didn’t come off with all the kisses she got as I couldn’t really cuddle her that much for the first two weeks as she had to be in a double light incubator - I’m sure she was in there longer because when it was feeding or changing nappy time I used to keep her out for as long as possible cuddling her LOL

]]> By: Nic http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup/2005/01/31/blog-or-washing-washing-up/comment-page-1/#comment-3431 Nic Tue, 01 Feb 2005 08:44:06 +0000 /?p=635#comment-3431 I am very affectionate with my two - and Ady is is too to a slightly lesser extent. Not sure why as I'm not super keen on other people 'in my personal space' too much and neither of my parents was huge on kisses and cuddles. It just feels right and I do it without thinking about it. If it didn't come naturally though I don't know how easy it would be to keep it up. I also know of several parents who are very cuddly people but their kids just don't like it. Fun and laughter OTOH are good for everyone and I think it's always worth finding time to enjoy life and the people you share it with. Scarlett sounds a bit more like Small - good at getting the attention when they need it as and when. Davies can end up being a bit neglected and I have started to deliberately make time for him and I to do stuff together without the distraction of S around - every Saturday we go off together, even if it's just to the shops and we both really enjoy it just being us. I don't know that poem but I think I understand what your thoughts on it are - it is very hard to strike a balance between a 'see what happens' attitude and complete living in the future and never enjoying the today. I am very affectionate with my two - and Ady is is too to a slightly lesser extent. Not sure why as I’m not super keen on other people ‘in my personal space’ too much and neither of my parents was huge on kisses and cuddles. It just feels right and I do it without thinking about it. If it didn’t come naturally though I don’t know how easy it would be to keep it up. I also know of several parents who are very cuddly people but their kids just don’t like it.
Fun and laughter OTOH are good for everyone and I think it’s always worth finding time to enjoy life and the people you share it with.

Scarlett sounds a bit more like Small - good at getting the attention when they need it as and when. Davies can end up being a bit neglected and I have started to deliberately make time for him and I to do stuff together without the distraction of S around - every Saturday we go off together, even if it’s just to the shops and we both really enjoy it just being us.
I don’t know that poem but I think I understand what your thoughts on it are - it is very hard to strike a balance between a ’see what happens’ attitude and complete living in the future and never enjoying the today.

]]> By: Joyce http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup/2005/01/31/blog-or-washing-washing-up/comment-page-1/#comment-3430 Joyce Tue, 01 Feb 2005 08:25:54 +0000 /?p=635#comment-3430 Rona said to me once when she was dying that if she had known she was going to die before she was 40, she's wouldn't have wasted money on a pension plan. She was always saying to me "don't die a 100 deaths worrying about the tomorrow you might not have. Live a bit" But as an olympic level worrier, I find that "live in the moment" bit incredibly hard to do. But the issue is that future-worry often just leads to me feeling paralysed and overwhelmed, so I don't do anything, except worry, and then don't enjoy today, either. I think in my case it ties me to doing things in the here and now (like driving all that distance to work), that I hate, but I can't break free of becuase of "what if". So no answer - I'm a work in progress on this one, but lots of empathy. One of the earlier little angels covered that touch issue, and Tania was suggesting that if going for the whole blown hugs thing was hard, to do more casual touching initially. So I guess things like reating a hand on a head or a shoulder, qucik stroke down the back as you squeeze past them etc. Rona said to me once when she was dying that if she had known she was going to die before she was 40, she’s wouldn’t have wasted money on a pension plan. She was always saying to me “don’t die a 100 deaths worrying about the tomorrow you might not have. Live a bit” But as an olympic level worrier, I find that “live in the moment” bit incredibly hard to do. But the issue is that future-worry often just leads to me feeling paralysed and overwhelmed, so I don’t do anything, except worry, and then don’t enjoy today, either. I think in my case it ties me to doing things in the here and now (like driving all that distance to work), that I hate, but I can’t break free of becuase of “what if”. So no answer - I’m a work in progress on this one, but lots of empathy. One of the earlier little angels covered that touch issue, and Tania was suggesting that if going for the whole blown hugs thing was hard, to do more casual touching initially. So I guess things like reating a hand on a head or a shoulder, qucik stroke down the back as you squeeze past them etc.

]]> By: Jonathan http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup/2005/01/31/blog-or-washing-washing-up/comment-page-1/#comment-3425 Jonathan Tue, 01 Feb 2005 03:55:57 +0000 /?p=635#comment-3425 M loves being tickled, C hates it - but they both love having their back massaged. They also reciprocate on occasion. I sometimes find it useful as a gentle wake 'em up mechanism too. M loves being tickled, C hates it - but they both love having their back massaged. They also reciprocate on occasion. I sometimes find it useful as a gentle wake ‘em up mechanism too.

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