Comments on: Carelessness http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup/2004/08/26/carelessness/ montessori at school, autonomous at home, all learning together Wed, 19 Nov 2008 23:22:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Sarah, Roo and Kids http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup/2004/08/26/carelessness/#comment-761 Sarah, Roo and Kids Fri, 27 Aug 2004 20:23:10 +0000 /?p=322#comment-761 ROFL I thought they might be! ROFL I thought they might be!

]]> By: Barbara http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup/2004/08/26/carelessness/#comment-759 Barbara Fri, 27 Aug 2004 19:20:47 +0000 /?p=322#comment-759 giggling at Merry. I use the 'I need to concentrate' excuse so often in the car, that E will even use it (Mummy needs to concentrate) to shut B up sometimes. Thinking about it now, I think I would have overlooked the misuse of language too - in fact I'm sure I have already in the past without thinking about it. I guess what E means by 'husband' is simply 'adult male component of the family unit'. She has obviously seen (and asked questions about) our wedding photos, and knows that that was when we became husband and wife. I don't think I've gone any further in explaining marriage than explaining that that was when Mummy and Daddy agreed to spend the rest of their lives together because we loved each other, so God made us into a family. So as I'm assuming you and Tim have no plans to split up ;-) and you are clearly a family unit, then E's understanding of the term 'husband' would apply to him to Tim. I'm not surprised that suggesting he wasn't confused her, as it's really not something we've gone into that much detail about yet. I'm not even sure what she would understand by the concept of a mummy and daddy not being married, as her definition of marriage, I expect, is no deeper than being a partnership which you clearly are. Am waiting eagerly for her to bring up the subject again so I can quiz her... And Sarah (the other one), yes, I'm amazed E hasn't picked up on that topic yet. You would have thought it would be slightly more obvious, lol. Yours were the R and M I was refering to in my first comment. giggling at Merry. I use the ‘I need to concentrate’ excuse so often in the car, that E will even use it (Mummy needs to concentrate) to shut B up sometimes.

Thinking about it now, I think I would have overlooked the misuse of language too - in fact I’m sure I have already in the past without thinking about it. I guess what E means by ‘husband’ is simply ‘adult male component of the family unit’. She has obviously seen (and asked questions about) our wedding photos, and knows that that was when we became husband and wife. I don’t think I’ve gone any further in explaining marriage than explaining that that was when Mummy and Daddy agreed to spend the rest of their lives together because we loved each other, so God made us into a family. So as I’m assuming you and Tim have no plans to split up ;-) and you are clearly a family unit, then E’s understanding of the term ‘husband’ would apply to him to Tim. I’m not surprised that suggesting he wasn’t confused her, as it’s really not something we’ve gone into that much detail about yet. I’m not even sure what she would understand by the concept of a mummy and daddy not being married, as her definition of marriage, I expect, is no deeper than being a partnership which you clearly are. Am waiting eagerly for her to bring up the subject again so I can quiz her…

And Sarah (the other one), yes, I’m amazed E hasn’t picked up on that topic yet. You would have thought it would be slightly more obvious, lol. Yours were the R and M I was refering to in my first comment.

]]> By: Sarah http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup/2004/08/26/carelessness/#comment-758 Sarah Fri, 27 Aug 2004 19:11:53 +0000 /?p=322#comment-758 Yes, I quite agree. I think what I meant was that I'd probably have avoided the discussion with somebody else's child, as opposed to my own! Especially if I knew that their belief system was different to mine on that issue ... or at least I'd have to preface whatever I said with a 'family beliefs' disclaimer of some sort ... then again probably the children can work that out for themselves as well ... S'funny though, this post (and Anna having spent a week at the Portico!) has really made me think about how I would communicate my values to other children not in our family, and how I'd feel about my children hearing from other families too, without me/Steve there, iyswim - interesting. Yes, I quite agree. I think what I meant was that I’d probably have avoided the discussion with somebody else’s child, as opposed to my own! Especially if I knew that their belief system was different to mine on that issue … or at least I’d have to preface whatever I said with a ‘family beliefs’ disclaimer of some sort … then again probably the children can work that out for themselves as well …

S’funny though, this post (and Anna having spent a week at the Portico!) has really made me think about how I would communicate my values to other children not in our family, and how I’d feel about my children hearing from other families too, without me/Steve there, iyswim - interesting.

]]> By: Merry http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup/2004/08/26/carelessness/#comment-757 Merry Fri, 27 Aug 2004 18:07:40 +0000 /?p=322#comment-757 Lol... i think though, that if you hit them straight between the eyes with in in a frank fashion, they normally don't blink an eyelid. It always been the stuff i hedge on that i get perpetually questioned on, till i end up explaining myself properly and looknig stupid for glossing in the first place! Lol… i think though, that if you hit them straight between the eyes with in in a frank fashion, they normally don’t blink an eyelid. It always been the stuff i hedge on that i get perpetually questioned on, till i end up explaining myself properly and looknig stupid for glossing in the first place!

]]> By: Sarah, Roo and Kids http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup/2004/08/26/carelessness/#comment-755 Sarah, Roo and Kids Fri, 27 Aug 2004 17:03:40 +0000 /?p=322#comment-755 Hee Hee just wait til we get involved in this discussion! Hee Hee just wait til we get involved in this discussion!

]]> By: Sarah http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup/2004/08/26/carelessness/#comment-752 Sarah Fri, 27 Aug 2004 16:08:41 +0000 /?p=322#comment-752 I have to say, I'd have been tempted to overlook the misuse of the term 'husband' in this case and simply concentrate on the T-i-m that was obviously coming next!! I have to say, I’d have been tempted to overlook the misuse of the term ‘husband’ in this case and simply concentrate on the T-i-m that was obviously coming next!!

]]> By: Merry http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup/2004/08/26/carelessness/#comment-751 Merry Fri, 27 Aug 2004 15:20:48 +0000 /?p=322#comment-751 Cor, you think you lot have trouble - i was pressed (hard) for a complete explanation of the split from Rome, the reasons for being a monk or a nun and the difference between Catholic and Protestant in the car today. I had to pretend i was lost in the end cos i ran out of knowledge! Cor, you think you lot have trouble - i was pressed (hard) for a complete explanation of the split from Rome, the reasons for being a monk or a nun and the difference between Catholic and Protestant in the car today. I had to pretend i was lost in the end cos i ran out of knowledge!

]]> By: Liberta http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup/2004/08/26/carelessness/#comment-747 Liberta Fri, 27 Aug 2004 11:41:00 +0000 /?p=322#comment-747 The god and the marriage questions, you are gonna have them always, but the book question, I will put that to you just once. 200 books - what type, when, how ??? dont taunt us with the figure, tell us the details! P.S. please can you change the comment settings so it doesnt keep asking for email address - and then lose my whole comment when I back button to put it in,,,, please!!! The god and the marriage questions, you are gonna have them always, but the book question, I will put that to you just once.

200 books - what type, when, how ??? dont taunt us with the figure, tell us the details!

P.S. please can you change the comment settings so it doesnt keep asking for email address - and then lose my whole comment when I back button to put it in,,,, please!!!

]]> By: Merry http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup/2004/08/26/carelessness/#comment-746 Merry Fri, 27 Aug 2004 09:11:13 +0000 /?p=322#comment-746 Giggle... that is quite funny! Giggle… that is quite funny!

]]> By: Barbara http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup/2004/08/26/carelessness/#comment-745 Barbara Fri, 27 Aug 2004 08:01:47 +0000 /?p=322#comment-745 Eek! I expected this would come at some point, but didn't think I was going to have to deal with it quite so soon. It's really not something we've explicitly talked about at all with her yet. At least not out of the context of our own family (which I guess is very conventional, even with extended family included in that to). Maybe that's because I'm still struggling to figure out the right words. And I'm sure that whatever I say, she will no doubt embarrisingly mis-quote me at some point. What a delicate subject at any age. Umm. Guess I'd better start preparing my responses for when she starts debating with R and M. Oh boy! Eek! I expected this would come at some point, but didn’t think I was going to have to deal with it quite so soon. It’s really not something we’ve explicitly talked about at all with her yet. At least not out of the context of our own family (which I guess is very conventional, even with extended family included in that to). Maybe that’s because I’m still struggling to figure out the right words. And I’m sure that whatever I say, she will no doubt embarrisingly mis-quote me at some point. What a delicate subject at any age. Umm. Guess I’d better start preparing my responses for when she starts debating with R and M. Oh boy!

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